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In the words of Mark Manson, “In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference”, we all need to learn how to give fewer fucks.
Are you feeling that the world is beginning to rest its weight on your shoulders? Tired of everything, existing to get up each morning to go to work and spending your evenings cooking the same old boring meals that you eat for energy consumption not to enjoy. This is when you need to a new perspective for life, you need to stop giving a fuck. Scrolling down your social media feed seeing your ‘friends’ posting about their travels, whilst you’re just trying to get a few likes for your cute dog pic. Stop caring about what everyone else is up to and start living your own life is the basis of Mark Manson’s self-help book, ‘The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**K’.
The tough love self-help guide is what is needed in a time where people don’t realise how good they actually have it, and are stuck in a rut feeling sorry for themselves whilst the rest of the world keeps turning. It’s a lesson in learning and understanding who you are and figuring out your priorities. Mason offers a short guide to help you give less fucks, the three steps are, a) “Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different”. B) “To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity”. C) “We all have a limited number of fucks to give; pay attention to where and who you give them to”.
So how does putting these into practice work? Here’s a simple guide with tips from the wise Manson to help you stop giving a fuck when you don’t need to.
A) “Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different”
People admire those who tend to live life more carefree and open to anything as well as saying no to the things they truly couldn’t bear to waste their time on. There’s no reason to put these people on a pedestal we could just start living our lives, from this very moment, in the same way.
“...They say “Fuck it,” not to everything in life, but rather they say “Fuck it” to everything unimportant in life. They reserve their fucks for what truly fucking matters. Friends. Family. Purpose...”
B) “To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity”
This is all a matter of perspective and what ultimately is so important to you, you must give a fuck about it otherwise you’ll lose something, emotionally or physically. This step is all about figuring out what petty things you find yourself getting worked up over, for instance, using social media to check up on what your ex has been getting up to recently. Avoid looking and focus on the people you really care about and you’ll feel better for it pretty quickly.
“...chances are you don’t have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that’s your real problem...”
Find your own purpose and start doing the things you really want to do, a new hobby or meeting up with your mates who you keep telling you can’t do anything because you’re tired or don’t have any money.
C) “We all have a limited number of fucks to give; pay attention to where and who you give them to”
You can’t always be trying to please everyone and anyone so start putting your energy in the those that deserve it. If you’re posting a picture on Instagram and you find yourself bothered about how many ‘likes’ you’re getting, then your fucks are in the wrong place and you’re wasting time and energy. Try enjoying the moment with the people you’re with rather than showing off to others, who let’s face it don’t care about your gym workout, then you’ll start living in the moment more and inevitable start to enjoy your time more.
“...We no longer need to give a fuck about everything. Life is just what it is. We accept it, warts and all...”
These three simple life-changing steps could help boot you in the right direction, giving you the motivation you’ve need for a long time. If you find that you like Manson’s tough love approach then you should read his series of books including “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck” followed by “Everything Is Fucked, A Book About Hope”. Or you can visit his website for his latest information and upcoming talks.